Out of the closet before the shtf

[nickdutch]

Balls? Really? By typing a post in an online forum... And yet didn't have the courage to be honest right from the start. The decent people of the world go about their lives being honest with their loved ones from day 1.

Shame on me?! SHAME ON YOU FOR PRAISING THIS FARCE!

And as for making anybody feel unaccepted, that's not my intention. But nobody should expect to post something in a forum - effectively entering into the public domain - then complain when a different opinion is met. I'm entitled to my opinion just as you are.

and all of us are entitled to the opinions that we have on the type of person who has your views too. IMHO, you are substantially in the minority

[Mustachio]

Balls? Really? By typing a post in an online forum... And yet didn't have the courage to be honest right from the start. The decent people of the world go about their lives being honest with their loved ones from day 1.

Shame on me?! SHAME ON YOU FOR PRAISING THIS FARCE!

And as for making anybody feel unaccepted, that's not my intention. But nobody should expect to post something in a forum - effectively entering into the public domain - then complain when a different opinion is met. I'm entitled to my opinion just as you are.

You realise that people change .... not everyone understands their sexuality right away. Some people know all their lives, some people don't become aware till much later in life.

If you think it's the right thing to do just for him dump all this life changing news on his children and move out, then you clearly don't have kids of your own.

He and his wife are tackling this situation in exactly the right manner, which will have minimal impact on the children.

[G.B]

Seems to be a lot of respect going out there... I suspect it's because nobody wants to be seen to be any different. PC and all that.

I'd like to convey my absolute disrespect to you. You have a wife; who you are still with - weird. Anyway, maybe you should have sorted out all your personal stuff before getting married. And you haven't told your kids??? I believe somebody mentioned something about courage earlier.... whatever.

And before anybody starts, I'm not scared of gay people, nor do I dislike them.

You are entitled to your opinion.

[latrocinium]

Balls? Really? By typing a post in an online forum... And yet didn't have the courage to be honest right from the start. The decent people of the world go about their lives being honest with their loved ones from day 1.

Shame on me?! SHAME ON YOU FOR PRAISING THIS FARCE!

And as for making anybody feel unaccepted, that's not my intention. But nobody should expect to post something in a forum - effectively entering into the public domain - then complain when a different opinion is met. I'm entitled to my opinion just as you are.

You realise that people change .... not everyone understands their sexuality right away. Some people know all their lives, some people don't become aware till much later in life.

If you think it's the right thing to do just for him dump all this life changing news on his children and move out, then you clearly don't have kids of your own.

He and his wife are tackling this situation in exactly the right manner, which will have minimal impact on the children.

I didn't say it was right to "dump" life changing news on anybody. That's exactly my point. I think it's wrong to enter into a heterosexual marriage, have kids, then decide, for whatever reason, that you are no longer heterosexual. And I do have kids, thanks.

[redskies]

No one just 'decides' they're not heterosexual, any more than they 'decide' to be gay, bi, trans or anything else. And, frankly, it's attitudes like yours that contribute to folks not feeling comfortable with their sexuality and trying to be 'normal', whatever the hell that is.

It takes a great deal of courage to accept that your original choices weren't right for you and, by association, the other people in your life. It takes a great deal more to be honest about that and find your way through an emotionally fraught and very difficult situation. And if just one person in that situation reads GB's account and finds the courage to do the right thing, then him posting it up here has been good.

Yes, you are indeed entitled to your opinion. But there's a time and a place for everything, and I would suggest that this is neither when it comes to your negative opinions. Perhaps next time you could sit on your hands and not post, ruining a supportive, kind hearted thread.

My Mum always told me that if I didn't have something nice to say, I shouldn't say anything at all. It's excellent advice, and something you could do with considering.

[SooBee]

Soobee deleted it...mostly because you are not ready for my black sense of humour.

Shake hands and buy each other a beer (or something).

[Mustachio]

I think it's wrong to enter into a heterosexual marriage, have kids, then decide, for whatever reason, that you are no longer heterosexual.

Wow! Really? "Decide"? You think that's how these things happen?

I genuinely thought these kinds of beliefs died out with my nan.

[nickdutch]

can we please have this thread locked please.

[Bodhihermit]

can we please have this thread locked please.

I Agree

[latrocinium]

No one just 'decides' they're not heterosexual, any more than they 'decide' to be gay, bi, trans or anything else. And, frankly, it's attitudes like yours that contribute to folks not feeling comfortable with their sexuality and trying to be 'normal', whatever the hell that is.

It takes a great deal of courage to accept that your original choices weren't right for you and, by association, the other people in your life. It takes a great deal more to be honest about that and find your way through an emotionally fraught and very difficult situation. And if just one person in that situation reads GB's account and finds the courage to do the right thing, then him posting it up here has been good.

Yes, you are indeed entitled to your opinion. But there's a time and a place for everything, and I would suggest that this is neither when it comes to your negative opinions. Perhaps next time you could sit on your hands and not post, ruining a supportive, kind hearted thread.

My Mum always told me that if I didn't have something nice to say, I shouldn't say anything at all. It's excellent advice, and something you could do with considering.

Ah, I see now. So it's not so much about honesty, but more about one set of opinions. How dare you tell me what I should consider?! Because I don't share your opinion, or that of many others, I shouldn't voice mine???
There's me thinking that forums were open to different opinions. It appears that I am not entitled to my opinion after all.